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Imitate Christ: Love Requires Us to Take Blows [Guest Post]

What does Jesus' scourging, an old married Rabbi, and dragons have to do with relationships and marriage? This week I had the great privilege of writing for Arleen Spenceley's series "Relationship Tips".  Go give it a gander and be sure to check out some of Arleen's writings too, they are well worth your time.

"The only sword heavy enough to slay the dragon is the same sword Jesus used to defeat the soldiers that scourged him - total selfless love. Just as selfless love led Jesus to the pillar he was scourged on to defeat sin, and the cross on which he trampled death. In this sign, you too shall conquer.

Learn from Christ. The fallen imperfections of your lover are the saving scourges of your marriage. Only by enduring them with charity, humility, and patience will you win your bride, and at the same time yourself, from the clutches of the enemy. Defeat your lover’s dragons, so you can present him/her “without spot or wrinkle…that she might be holy and without blemish.” (Ephesians 5:27)"

You can find the full article here.

God bless your holy marriages and relationships! +JMJ

Love Like the Movies

[youtube=http://youtu.be/KABO3F9IfEw] Why do we love movie romances so much, and why do we desire for the love stories in movies to happen to us? Really, why do all of us want to be in love like the movies?

I was blessed to have the opportunity to write a guest post for Ignitum Today.

Check out the full article here:  http://www.ignitumtoday.com/2012/09/25/love-like-the-movies/

Be a Saint!

+JMJ

Free Book Giveaway & Support a Catholic Speaker Month

It's September and you may not know it's also Support a Catholic Speaker Month.  I'm giving away a free book (see end of post) by Blessed Pope John Paul II to help raise some support for Deacon Ralph Poyo, who I had the pleasure of video interviewing and writing an article about.

Being a Catholic speaker is hard work.  They travel away from family for many days out of the year, giving all the energy and passion they have to a large group of people for sometimes hours on end, and don't always get the best pay or sometimes rely solely on the grace of God to provide them and their families with support.

Today's First Reading starts with St. Paul urging us to live a life worthy of the call we have received.  He then goes on to talk about the many and varied calls given to us as followers of Christ:

But grace was given to each of us according to the measure of Christ's gift. And he gave some as Apostles, others as prophets, others as evangelists, others as pastors and teachers, to equip the holy ones for the work of ministry, for building up the Body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of faith and knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the extent of the full stature of Christ. Ephesians 4:11-13

Being a Catholic speaker is a call from Christ to serve and build up the Body of Christ, the Church, in a specific way.  The Church needs good public speakers to build us up, convict us, empower us, and to evangelize us.

The purpose of Support a Catholic Speaker Month is to give us a chance to give back to the speakers who have given so much to us by supporting and encouraging them as gifts to the Body of Christ.

I believe this is so important and I want to try to reward you for spreading prayers, love and support for the great Catholic speaker I had the honor of interviewing for this month, Deacon Ralph Poyo.

Deacon Ralph's speaking ministry is a passionate and spirit filled gift to the Church (if you don't know much about him, check out the video interview and blog post here), and there are some Churches and some Catholics who need to hear him speak, but have never even heard of him.  (Check out the bottom of the post interview for some amazing examples of him speaking)

Help me spread the word about his speaking ministry and support him with prayer.

Here are two things you can do right now to support Deacon Ralph:

1) Pray for him, his family, and the call he is living out. It would only take a few seconds to send a Hail Mary his way.  Maybe offer him up in your intentions at Mass.  Say a Rosary for him.  Comment below what you have offered up in support and we can start a spiritual bouquet for him and his ministry.

2) Share the post and video interview on the interwebs The post and interview can be found here.  Facebook, twitter, email - however you can spread the word helps Deacon Ralph get to a parish that God wants to send him to minister at.  

I am giving away a free Catholic book by Blessed Pope John Paul II, and you can enter for a chance to win it by commenting below on this post (or this post) and saying whether you shared the interview with Deacon Ralph on Facebook or twitter, or said a prayer for him and his ministry.  The opportunity to enter ends October 1st, when I will pick and announce a random winner, contact them, and send them "Crossing the Threshold of Hope" by Blessed Pope John Paul II, free of charge.

Thanks in advance for your charity and support!

+JMJ Edmund

Catholic Book Giveaway to Support Deacon Ralph!

You can find the full post with the video interview and Book Giveaway >>>here<<<

[Interview] Arleen Spenceley Writes About Sex

Arleen Spenceley likes to talk about sex.  And as a Catholic young adult who is also a staff writer for the Tampa Bay Times, she is very good at it.

I first came across Arleen's writing by way of a link to her blog, and the first thing I noticed was how disarmingly charming her writing is.  She reels you in with a story and a laugh and is the farthest thing from preachy.  But her work doesn't aim merely at making you laugh (which she does very well) but also at making you think.

Tampa is my home town, so when I found out that she writes for the Tampa Bay Times and is promoting chastity and the truth of Christ through the local news of my hometown, I was pumped to say the least - "You go Catholic writing girl you! Talk about that sex and how awesome chastity is!"

Arleen graciously agreed to answer some questions that have been on my mind ever since being exposed to her writing, and I think you will enjoy her answers.  The Catholic Church needs more evangelists like Arleen who are in the world but not of the world spreading the message of the Gospel with charm, wit and joy.

How did you become a staff writer for the Tampa Bay Times and what about writing makes you most passionate?

Believe it or not, the short answer to part one of this question is fried chicken. Here's the long answer: In high school, I worked as a cashier at Popeyes Chicken (where we do good 'bayou'!). One afternoon, a customer came to the counter, and he looked totally familiar. I remembered while I took his order that he was a local paper's publisher, and recently, he had given a talk to my school newspaper's staff. I told him I was going to be a journalist. He told me he needed writers and gave me his card. That high school kids could write for a paper hadn't dawned on me 'til that day. I was so excited by the opportunity, so, I called him and left a voicemail. No response. So I sent an email. No response. I never did hear back. Bummed, I brought it up to my school newspaper's sponsor, who suggested I call an editor at the other local paper. So I did. A couple days letter, I met face to face with an editor at the Times. A few days after that, he gave me my first assignment as a Times correspondent. I wrote as a correspondent for the second half of my senior year of high school through the summer before I graduated with my bachelor's degree in journalism. In the spring of 2007, I applied for a staff position and after a short series of interviews, I joined the staff in July the same year.

In answer to part two of this question, while I am passionate about writing, I think I write because I'm passionate. And I love grammar.

Some of your articles published in the Tampa Bay Times include "Why I'm Still a Virgin," "Why I quit facebook, twitter and texting" and "It's time to reshape our beauty standards." For RELEVANTmagazine.com, you've written "What it's like to be Catholic in a Protestant world." You write a lot about sex, relationships and the drawbacks of a generation saturated by social media.

What has been your experience expressing such strong Catholic values in the Tampa Bay Times, and what kind of feedback do you receive when you write?

All the essays you've listed are actually among the ones I've loved writing most. While I also write feature stories, opinion is my preference. As a Roman Catholic Christian, I can't not infuse what I write with my faith and every time I do it, it's absolutely exhilirating. When I wake up on a Sunday and remember that well over 400,000 people are at their breakfast tables eating their waffles and reading about why I'm saving sex for marriage, I'm humbled and amazed and grateful for the privilege.

The feedback is always overwhelmingly positive. Especially when I write about sex (twice for the Times since 2009), I get a lot of notes and calls from people who are Christians - Catholic and Protestant - who are encouraged, or want to encourage me, or who are compelled to share their own stories with me. I've actually been moved to tears by some of it, like the lovely voicemail I got from a 90 year old man, who's been married for 70 years to his 90 year old wife. Both were virgins at their wedding. It's responses like his that make the bad feedback bearable (i.e., "You're a virgin because you're probably not a hot babe." and "Who gives a #&$! why you've never been laid?").

In your opinion, how is engaging local news media outlets a good way of engaging the culture and bringing a Catholic presence to mainstream media?

Depending on the publication, you're really handed an incredibly large platform on a figurative silver platter. I remember the day my first Times story appeared in print. While I drove to school that morning, I saw the Times wrapped in plastic at the ends of all the driveways. It was so surreal to know that I, some random person, got to tell a story to all these people I don't even know. While that story wasn't earth shattering (it was about an amateur country music club), I realized that whatever I wrote would be hand delivered to the culture. So when the opportunities began arise to write essays about my lifestyle (which is profoundly part of my faith in Jesus Christ as a Roman Catholic Christian), I couldn't imagine a better way to engage the culture and bring a Catholic presence to the mainstream media.

I'm wondering how many other good Catholic writers are doing what you do, and why there aren't more Catholic writers out there speaking up in secular newspapers. What's your take on this as someone who does it on a regular basis?

This is a really good question. I'm stumped! There are plenty of practicing Catholics and plenty of newspaper writers, but my guess is that "practicing Catholic who writes for a newspaper" is such a specific niche that we really are just that few and far between.

How can Catholics go about engaging their local news either online or in print?

So many ways! When your church or ministry hosts an event that's open to the public, send a press release about it to your local paper. If something's happening at church that might be a story, pitch the idea to a reporter. (And give us at least a couple weeks' notice.) Write letters to the editor (lots of papers will print them!) when an opportunity arises to explain or clarify what the church teaches. Leave comments on stories online that model the kind of life Christ leads us to live.

How can readers support good writers such as yourself who write for the newspapers they read?

Pray for us! Share what we write with your families and friends, your students, your ministries. Facebook, Google+ and tweet the heck out of our stories. And send us feedback. I can't speak for every writer, but I always appreciate knowing how what I write impacts the people who read it.

What is your advice to budding Catholic writers who are trying to develop their writing skills in order to engage the culture and take part in the New Evangelization?

If you can write, write more. The more you write, the better you'll get. Start a blog. Ask writer friends to proof-read and criticize your work. And read. Read stuff written by good writers. Sometimes, before I write, I pull up my paper's archives and read features by a couple colleagues who are a Pulitzer Prize nominee and winner, respectively. It inspires me, and gives me something to emulate. The better we write, the more likely readers will read what we write to the end. And when what we write is part of the New Evangelization, we absolutely want them to want to finish reading it. _________________________________________________________________________

So get to work!  Support good writers in your local newspaper, start writing, and start engaging the local news and spreading the Gospel!

You can find Arleen and all her published writing at www.arleenspenceley.com where she also blogs regularly.  And be sure to go support her by giving her a LIKE on her facebook page.

These are a few of my favorite pieces by Arleen:

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